Self-trust. Easy peasy lemon squeezy, right?
Actually, if you’ve experienced a lifetime of self-doubt, it’s more like difficult difficult lemon difficult.
It can be hard to connect to that quiet, assured, trustworthy voice within you.
But it’s there.
You may struggle to hear it, but it’s there.
Part of that struggle is that when you attempt to listen to that authentic voice, often another voice tries to undermine you, saying “you can’t”, “you’re wrong” or “what would people think?”
You then doubt your thoughts and feelings, and it doesn’t feel safe to trust yourself.
Central to the process of healing overeating issues is learning to differentiate between those two voices and work out which is trustworthy and which isn’t. It’s learning to dismiss the one that makes you doubt yourself and pay attention to the one that says “It doesn’t matter what other people think, I know what’s right for me”.
Then, as you begin to normalise your relationship with food, you learn to trust – perhaps for the first time – your hunger, your appetite and your body. You also find you’re able to trust your feelings, your instincts and your sense of self. As you deepen that trust, you feel more grounded, whole and in charge of your life.
It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been doubting yourself, it’s OK to start trusting yourself.
Actually, it’s essential.
You’re the only person who knows what’s best for you. I know that’s hard to trust but it’s true.
So, please: trust yourself.
For more on trusting yourself and your boundaries, you can read this 2017 post “How Can Fear Make Us Fat?”