Gentle Reminder: You’re Not Alone

“There is nothing so moving – not even acts of love or hate – as the discovery that one is not alone.” – Robert Ardrey.

Since we became aware of the scale of the Covid-19 pandemic, we’ve witnessed feats of altruism that leave us in awe.

We’ve also seen acts of selfishness which make us hold our hands up in despair.

However, what I’m experiencing most often is a sense of connectedness and solidarity.

“We’re in this together” is the message I keep hearing.

The knowledge we’re not alone provides comfort in this time of challenge. We’re bound together in a world that has changed dramatically in a very short space of time. While each of our experiences is different, there’s a commonality which unites us and that’s reassuring.

So know that – wherever you are – you’re not alone.

Also, know that it’s understandable if your eating has become unsettled and erratic. It’s normal to feel anxious and uncertain at a time like this and it’s not surprising you turn to food to detach from those feelings. But it’s also a good time to keep focused on your issues and practise staying with yourself emotionally.

To help, I’ve created a new eatonomy® Scoop.It page.

Scoop.It enables to me to “curate” online articles I think might be interesting or useful to anyone struggling with emotion-driven overeating. Click on the link above to access the page. To help me feel like I’m not “scooping” into a vacuum, please hit the “Follow” button on the top left-hand corner when you get there.

Also, if you finished sessions with me either privately or at the eating disorders charity where I work within the past 6 months and you feel you need to check in online via Zoom or phone during this difficult time, I’m happy for you to contact me.

My private practice is currently full so I’m not able to provide ongoing sessions, but I’ll do my very best to accommodate you if I can. Please don’t struggle in silence – if you think a private session would be useful, just get in touch through the Contact page.

You’re not alone.

Stay home.

Save lives.

We’re in this together.

Personal Note: Riding the Waves of Change

“You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn

This month marks 3 years since I started this blog with my very first post “Why Should We Make Peace with Food?”.

What began as a way of conveying some helpful words to clients struggling with emotion-driven overeating has grown into something I couldn’t have imagined.

This month’s theme is “change” and, rather ingeniously, I was planning to tell you I’m making some changes of my own.

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Expert Insight: A Gentler Way of Dealing with Yourself

“Change happens the way a plant grows: slowly, without force, and with the essential nutrients of love and patience and a willingness to remain constant through periods of stasis.

If change is what you want, you need to find a gentler way of dealing with yourself and others.”

– Geneen Roth, “Breaking Free from Emotional Eating”

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Food for Thought: Step Forward into Growth

“In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety.” – Abraham Maslow

How often have you found yourself at that difficult crossroads?

A part of you urges you to step back, insisting you stay in your comfort zone where it’s familiar and safe. “Keep to your usual way of thinking. Continue your old patterns of behaviour. You know where you are then”, it says.

But, like a persistent child tugging at your sleeve, another part wants your attention.

Rather than stay safe, it compels you to move forward. “There’s more for you than this. You know there is”, it whispers, as it hints at an exciting future you’ve yet to discover.

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How Do You Soothe Yourself Without Food?

Back in my binge eating days, I’d often hear a soothing little voice in my ear.

If I was having a tough day at work, the voice would whisper: “it’s OK, pick up some food on your way home”. Like co-conspirators, the little voice and I would plan the binge I’d have later.

Planning was part of the bingeing ritual and looking forward to it helped me get through the day. I’d feel excited as I imagined all the food I was going to eat. All those “bad” and “naughty” things I felt I wasn’t allowed because I was firmly entrenched in the diet mentality.

But the little voice gave me permission. After all, it told me I was having a difficult day and food would make me feel better.

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A New Year’s Day Reminder

If you wrote a New Year’s Day letter to yourself (remember Season’s Greetings: A Letter to You?) here’s a friendly reminder to open it.

Enjoy reading your letter – I hope it brings you comfort, insight and encouragement.

If you haven’t written your letter yet, it’s not too late. Why not take some time to write one now? If you’ve immediately dismissed this suggestion, maybe ask yourself why. What’s holding you back?

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Gentle Reminder: It’s Not Your Fault

It’s so easy to beat yourself up when you binge. Especially if you begin to suffer health complications as a result of increased weight.

“It’s my fault”, you say. “I’ve brought this on myself”.

Except you haven’t.

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