The path to a peaceful relationship with food can be long and twisting.
And many things can try to pull you away from it.
Maybe someone at work raves about losing weight on the latest diet and you consider joining them for yet another “quick fix” attempt.
Maybe you go clothes shopping and nothing fits well or looks right, and you decide your body is to blame.
Maybe someone snaps a photo of you and your Inner Bully has a field day pointing out all your “defects”.
There’s one thing, though, that’s perhaps more disheartening than anything else.
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“Our ancestors did not have a constant supply of food. When a large animal – a whale, a bison, a woolly mammoth or an elephant – was killed, everyone feasted, gorged… it might be weeks or months before another big kill, so large amounts had to be eaten quickly and then stored in the body for the times of scarcity that were sure to come.
This is an ancient or atavistic memory that calls us to eat all we can now, even if we are not hungry, just in case there won’t be any food tomorrow… there is something deep in our primitive brain that still fears starvation, scarcity, famine.”
Jan Chozen Bays, “Mindful Eating”
Remember the panic-buying we witnessed when the Covid-19 crisis first hit?
Continue reading “Expert Insight: Dieting and the Fear of Famine”
If dieting never existed, what would your relationship with food be like?
Just think about it for a minute.
How would you eat if you’d never learnt to diet?
Would you wake up feeling confused and stressed about food?
Would you feel guilty and ashamed about eating something you “shouldn’t”?
Would you still binge? Label food as “good” or “bad”? Hate your body?
Continue reading “A World Without Dieting”
“There is nothing so moving – not even acts of love or hate – as the discovery that one is not alone.” – Robert Ardrey.
Since we became aware of the scale of the Covid-19 pandemic, we’ve witnessed feats of altruism that leave us in awe.
We’ve also seen acts of selfishness which make us hold our hands up in despair.
However, what I’m experiencing most often is a sense of connectedness and solidarity.
“We’re in this together” is the message I keep hearing.
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While the process of change never runs smoothly, sometimes it feels like an endless battle with yourself which can wear you down and make you feel like giving up.
So let’s examine some of the reasons why change might feel like such a challenge.
It’s not coming from a helpful place within you
Often the attempt to change is motivated by your Inner Bully who says you’re unacceptable and have to improve to earn your place in this world. Trying to change yourself to please others isn’t healthy motivation and doesn’t work. The only motivation for lasting change comes from an authentic place within that is concerned for your wellbeing and wants the very best for you.
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“I hate food.”
“I wish I didn’t have to eat.”
These are some of the things new clients say when we start working together.
Years of dieting and dysfunction with food have left them desperate about what to eat. Food has become the enemy and, understandably, they feel it would be simpler if they just didn’t have to eat at all.
Meals are often such a minefield that eating has no pleasure.
One of the best things about normalising your relationship with food is you get to enjoy eating again (or perhaps for the first time). As you learn to give yourself absolute permission to have exactly what you want, the sense of deprivation that contributes to binge eating begins to fade away.
Continue reading “Gentle Reminder: Paying Attention to Pleasure”