“The more you know about what makes you truly happy, the better you will be at finding it. Pleasure, joy, contentment and satisfaction may be sitting on your doorstep, but they’re not going to reach up and ring your bell!”
Karen R. Koenig, “The Food & Feelings Workbook”
Ironically, pleasure, joy, contentment and satisfaction will be ringing my doorbell this afternoon in the shape of two of my best women friends. We’ve known each other for decades and, although we only get to see each other once or twice a year, we always seem to pick up where we left off.
I have no doubt that during the two days we’ll be together we won’t stop talking unless we’re asleep. We’ll cry, we’ll talk utter nonsense and we’ll laugh until it hurts which, for three 50-something women, is – let’s face it – a risky endeavour.
In short, we’ll have an Utterly Good Time.
And that’s essential because life is so often So Damn Serious.
I spent too many years of my life allowing my insecurity about my body to get in the way of having a good time. I worried too much about what people thought about my appearance and if they were judging me. I let my negative thoughts about myself ruin every possible pleasurable experience.
But those days are over. I’ve learnt that life is way too short to spend it obsessing about what you look like.
My body has been various different sizes during the course of our friendship, from very big to the medium-size that I am now. But they don’t care what size I am. And nor do I. When I spend time with them I’m truly happy and that’s all that matters.
Everyone of us deserves “pleasure, joy, contentment and satisfaction”.
As Karen Koenig says, the more you understand what makes you truly happy the better you’ll be at finding it.
©️ Julie de Rohan 2019.
Koenig, K.R. (2007) “The Food & Feelings Workbook: A Full Course Meal on Emotional Health”. Carlsbad: Gurze Books.