Tag: Meeting your emotional needs

Gentle Reminder: Be Sensitive to Yourself

~ Julie de Rohan, eatonomy® ~ 9 Comments

You’re walking back from the shops one day when, out of the corner of your eye, you sense movement in a nearby alleyway.

As you approach, you realise it’s a little child, about 4 years old. As she turns her face towards you, you see she’s crying.  Her expression is a mix of anguish and fear. She’s alone, save for a small teddy which she’s clutching with both hands.

You bend down in front of her.

Then, you reach into your shopping bag and remove a tube of Pringles, a packet of 12 doughnuts, a family pack of chocolate bars and a large tub of ice-cream.

“Eat these until you feel sick”, you tell her.

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Why Do We Feel Responsible for Other People’s Feelings?

~ Julie de Rohan, eatonomy® ~ 57 Comments

You’re about to send an email and you’re re-reading it for the tenth time to make absolutely sure there’s nothing in it that could be misconstrued and cause offence. Then you check it another ten times after you’ve sent it – just in case…

You bump into a friend in the street. As you walk away, you replay the conversation over and over in your head trying to work out if you said anything “wrong”. You’re still rerunning the conversation in your head as you lie in bed that night…

A work colleague seems a bit off with you. You instantly rack your brain to recall your most recent interactions with them. You spend the day desperately trying to work out what you did to upset them so you can apologise and make things right…

Sound familiar?

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Why Am I Doing This To Myself?

~ Julie de Rohan, eatonomy® ~ 11 Comments

Trigger warning: binge eating, abuse, trauma.

After I’d finished yet another secret binge.
After I’d made myself feel sick from the vast quantity of food I’d eaten.
After I’d told myself how weak and pathetic I was.
After I’d hated myself with utter conviction.

As I sat alone in physical and emotional pain, this is the question I would ask myself over and over again.

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What’s Your Pleasure?

~ Julie de Rohan, eatonomy® ~ 2 Comments

We reach for food when we’re not hungry in order to detach from our emotions. The problem is that in doing so we cut ourselves off from all our emotions, even the enjoyable ones.

The struggle to understand and acknowledge what you’re feeling is an essential part of resolving your issues with food, so working out what brings you pleasure can be a lovely way to start.

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If It’s Not Food, What Do You Really Need?

~ Julie de Rohan, eatonomy® ~ 3 Comments

If you’re reaching for food when you’re not hungry.
If you’re eating beyond the point that your body says it’s had enough.
If you’re standing alone in a dark kitchen bingeing like there’s no tomorrow.
It’s not food you really need.

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