“The wants, needs, feelings, hours, hopes, and dreams of everyone around you bear equal weight to those of your own. Neither mine nor yours are greater. Ingrain that into your understanding”. ― Richelle E. Goodrich
Can you “ingrain that into your understanding”?
For some it’ll be easy, it’ll already be part of your world view. “Of course my needs are as important as anyone else’s. Why wouldn’t they be?”, you think.
Some behave as though their needs are more important than anyone else’s.
For others, it’ll be tough to believe your wants, needs, feelings, time and aspirations are in any way important, let alone just as important as anyone else’s.
Intellectually, you might know that it must be true.
But you just don’t feel it.
And you need to feel it. You need to ingrain it into your understanding.
Otherwise, you spend a lifetime believing everyone else is more important than you and your wishes simply don’t count. Life can then feel unsatisfying, even meaningless, because your yearnings remain unfulfilled and your needs go unmet.
So, if you’re struggling to believe your needs and feelings are just as important as anyone else’s, ask yourself one question:
Why wouldn’t they be?
(By the way, “because they’re just not” isn’t an answer).
Prove to me your hopes, dreams, feelings and needs aren’t important.
Show me your evidence.
As Richelle E. Goodrich says, all our needs and feelings bear equal weight. We all have the right to acknowledge, understand and meet our needs. Why would you be the exception?
Answer: you’re not.
I hope you can begin to ingrain that into your understanding.