Self-trust. Easy peasy lemon squeezy, right?
Actually, if you’ve experienced a lifetime of self-doubt, it’s more like difficult difficult lemon difficult.
It can be hard to connect to that quiet, assured, trustworthy voice within you.
But it’s there.
You may struggle to hear it, but it’s there.
Part of that struggle is that when you attempt to listen to that authentic voice, often another voice tries to undermine you, saying “you can’t”, “you’re wrong” or “what would people think?”
You then doubt your thoughts and feelings, and it doesn’t feel safe to trust yourself.
Central to the process of healing overeating issues is learning to differentiate between those two voices to work out which is trustworthy and which isn’t. It’s learning to dismiss the one that makes you doubt yourself and pay attention to the one that says “It doesn’t matter what other people think, I know what’s right for me”.
Then, as you begin to find autonomy with food, you learn to trust – perhaps for the first time – your hunger, your appetite and your body. You also find you’re able to trust your feelings, your instincts and your sense of self. As you deepen that trust, you feel more grounded, whole and in charge of your life.
It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been doubting yourself, it’s OK to start trusting yourself.
Actually, it’s essential.
You’re the only person who knows what’s best for you. I know that’s hard to trust but it’s true.
So, please: trust yourself.
©️ Julie de Rohan.
For more on trusting yourself and your boundaries, you can read “How Can Fear Make Us Fat?”
Lovely post, a joy to read x
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That’s very kind of you to say, thank you very much for your comment.
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You’re so right.
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I’m glad you agree! Thanks, Sadje.
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I am planning to write how I have changed my diet and lifestyle. I will tag you too.
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Once again, a post I enjoyed Julie! Wonderful read and so true!😀
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I’m so pleased, Erin, many thanks.
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Thanks Julie! I often need the reminder, “It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been doubting yourself…” It’s hard (but exciting) to realize I might’ve been wrong my whole life about some things I believed about myself.
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That sounds so interesting, Karen! That shift in perspective about ourselves can be quite staggering, but so rewarding – as we learn to trust ourselves, we develop a much clearer picture of who we really are. As you say, it’s as exciting as it is challenging. Good to hear from you, many thanks for your comment.
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Thank you for sharing!.. as I have said many a time, trust your heart and you will not go wrong… 🙂
“Confidence is knowing who you are and not changing it a bit because of someone’s version of reality is not your reality.”― Shannon L. Alder
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It can be hard to trust who we are but so worth it when we do. Thanks for sharing the quote and your thoughts, Dutch.
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You are welcome!.. “It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.” ( Agnes Repplier )..
Until we meet again..
May you always have a
Sunbeam to warm you
A moonbeam to charm you
And a sheltering angel
So nothing can harm you.
(Irish Saying)
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Beautiful! Thank you.
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A great message.
Difficult, difficult, lemon, difficult. That’s EPIC. Thank you for making me smiley.
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You’re very welcome! I hope you clicked the link to “In the Loop” which is where I brazenly stole it from. Many thanks for your comment.
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Yes. Yes, I did, because I was curious of its origin.
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Very glad to hear it, hope it made you chuckle.
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Sure did 🙂 Stay golden!
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You’re right, we need to listen to our true, inner voices. We know what’s best for us!
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Absolutely! It’s just learning to tune into it if we’re used to doubting ourselves. Good to hear from you, Ann.
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This was something I didn’t even realise for a long, long time, that I was doing – doubting myself and lacking trust in myself, in my ability to deal with life (without unhealthy coping mechanisms) and to make confident decisions. Another excellent post, Julie ♥
Caz xx
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That resonates with me, Caz – I think if self-doubt is your default setting, it’s hard to take a step back and realise what you’re doing. It takes some self-awareness and self-reflection to work it out. I’m so pleased to hear you’re in a very different place, that’s very heartening. Lovely to hear from you as ever, hope you’re doing OK.
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well written….wonderful
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Many thanks, Obaid.
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A very great message! 🤗👍✨
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Thank you.
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My pleasure
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lost this somewhere along my road road, thank you : )
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You’re very welcome. It’s challenging when experiences make us disconnect from self-trust – or perhaps we never learned it in the first place – but I think it is possible to learn to connect to ourselves and trust our instincts. Many thanks for your comment.
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Thank you kindly for your response as well as your counsel : )
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So right, so true and yet still many a time we are the last ones to believe in ourselves – a nice reminder Julie 🙂
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You’re right, Rory – often other people can believe in us even though we struggle to believe in ourselves. Many thanks for your comment.
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We are our biggest enemies and bullies at times Julie, sadly.
Pleasure, thank you.
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