What is eatonomy?

“The only way that we can live, is if we grow.  The only way that we can grow is if we change.  The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed.  And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it.  Throw yourself.”
– C. JoyBell C.

I started turning to food when I was around 12 years-old.  My emotional attachment to it had begun before that but I was about 12 when I started to binge, in secret, to the point that I felt sick.  As a result, I began to put on weight.

At the age of 19, I did what we’re told to do if you want to lose weight – I started dieting.  The restriction of dieting only served to ramp up the bingeing. With every diet, I would lose weight and put it back on, and a bit more besides.  As my weight increased further, my self-esteem – which had never been particularly robust – was decimated.

It’s my belief that you can’t achieve a sense of personal agency by following someone else’s instructions.

The only way I could find my way through and make peace with food, my body and myself was to discover my personal autonomy.

Instead of listening to other people about what I should eat, I started listening to myself about what I wanted.  I learned to shut out the noise, stop judging what I was eating and handle challenging emotions I had been denying for years.

Gradually, I developed a self-trust that influenced positively not only how I ate but every other area of my life.

eatonomy is a word I came up with many years ago to describe that self-trust – the ability to decide for yourself if you’re hungry, what you feel like eating and when you’ve had enough.  It’s about working with yourself – emotionally, psychologically and physically – rather than against.

That doesn’t mean that life is suddenly magical and perfect – you still have stresses and worries the same as anyone.  It just means you no longer turn to food to deal with them and have a better relationship with yourself.

It’s my belief that you can’t achieve a sense of personal agency by following someone else’s instructions – it just doesn’t work.  Therefore, this isn’t a hey-just-follow-these-10-miraculous-steps-and-your-problems-will-be-solved approach, it’s a stop-looking-outside-of-yourself-and-pay-attention-to-your-thoughts-and-feelings kind of thing.

What I write here is intended to aid self-awareness and self-reflection, to help you discover that authentic inner voice that knows what’s best for you.  In order to find that voice you need to be willing to have a conversation with yourself.  That’s why my blog post titles are always questions – questions intended to prompt that conversation.

I know how lonely and shameful it feels to be trapped in a restricting/bingeing cycle.  I also know how liberating and empowering it is to make peace with food – it’s my hope that everyone struggling with the former can experience the latter.

 

The eatonomy Community 

“One of the most important things you can do on this earth is to let people know they are not alone.” – Shannon L. Alder

eatonomists assemble! Please see the new Community section in the menu.

If you’re struggling with emotion-driven overeating it can be tough to find people who understand what you’re going through.

It can be especially difficult to find someone to help you make sense of it. No wonder that so many people with overeating issues feel isolated and alone, exacerbating the sense of not belonging that they’ve often experienced from a very young age.

From January 2019, I’ll be facilitating a monthly eatonomy group in Norfolk (apologies to anyone outside of the UK and probably outside of East Anglia for that matter).

The question posed in each monthly blog post will be the focus of discussion.  This is a group for those of you who are serious about exploring and understanding your problems.  It’s also a chance to hear other people’s experiences and build a supportive and motivated community.

So eatonomists assemble!  For more information about the group, please see the new “Community” section in the menu.

 

New Year Additions to the eatonomy Family

“A moment’s insight is sometimes worth a life’s experience.” – Oliver Wendell-Holmes Sr.

Also starting in January 2019, you’ll notice two new monthly posts: “Expert Insights” and “Food for Thought”.

“Expert Insights” are short excerpts from the vast array of literature I’ve read over the past 20 years in my quest to understand and find my own solution to this issue.  These are thought-provoking words from authors, researchers and practitioners about overeating and related issues such as body image, feelings, relationships and personal boundaries.

“Food for Thought” will feature enriching reflections from people who really have a way with words.  These are offered to uplift and reassure you, and to encourage you to reflect and stay connected to the part of you that says “it’s OK, you can do this”.

 

So welcome to eatonomy.  That’s all my news – how are you?

 

 

 

(My gratitude goes to the very talented, award-winning designer Maddy Russell at mrusselldesigns for the wonderful logo).

19 thoughts on “What is eatonomy?

  1. Hi Julie, what a great post! I loved it! I am truly disappointed that I live too far away from Norwich to be part of the Community but I am already looking forward to the new subject areas you will be blogging about in future. And fair play to you for embracing social media – I have tried and failed many times 🙂 Also, I love your new word, very clever indeed! Lxxx

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    1. Thank you, Lol! Your support means a great deal to me. I’m not great with the whole social media thing, but I’m learning – am finding Instagram quite creative. Glad you like “eatonomy” – it’s a word very dear to my heart. Many thanks for your comment.

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  2. Oh I love this so much, Julie! I am jealous that I am not closer to Norwich so I can participate (maybe someday you can do “virtual” groups) but I hope to read about your insights and reflections as you get the group started. I truly enjoy your work and look forward to each of your posts. “eatonomy” is a brilliant concept and I’m excited to see this launch. 🙂

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    1. What a lovely comment, Cristy, thank you. I’ve been working on eatonomy for some time so it feels a bit weird that it’s finally here. We’d love to see you at the Norwich group but I appreciate it’s a bit far to come! I’ve been facilitating groups for many years at the charity I work for but this is the first time I’ve done one privately so it’s very exciting. A virtual group sounds like a great idea, I may look into that in the future (one thing at a time…)

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    1. You’re very kind, thank you. I’m afraid I don’t participate in blogging awards but I’m very touched not only by your nomination but by your thoughtful comment. Many congratulations on your award, very well deserved.

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